Dec
6

Freeing the Female Orgasm

Filed Under Incest 

Most men enjoy having their genitals touched at any time,
whether they’re sexually aroused or not. This isn’t
usually the case with women. Think of the vagina as a “potential”
opening, a magical door that will happily open wide to receive
you, but only after you’ve called ahead to ensure your
welcome. Be certain she’s eager for your genital explorations
by focusing loving attention on other parts of her body
first — lots of kissing, neck nuzzling, tender strokes
on back, shoulders and arms, then adoring caresses of her
breasts. Only after you sense she’s ready, through
signs like rapid breathing, flushed skin, hardened nipples,
or enticing moans should you move to her vagina. Once your
hand or mouth is at her sweet honey pot begin to explore it
from the outside inward — outer lips, clitoris, inner
lips, vaginal canal.
Generally women reach orgasm most easily through clitoral
stimulation. The clitoris is extremely sensitive to touch
of all kinds. Often the head of the clitoris, the pointed
tip, is too sensitive for much direct pressure, so focus
your attention on the sides. Touch around the clitoris
instead of right on it, at least until her level of excitement
increases. The skin tissue of your fingers is not nearly
as sensitive as the tissue around her clitoris. But the
tissue of your mouth and tongue is an almost perfect match
in sensitivity. Unless you are more highly skilled in using
your fingers, it is a much safer way to start by using your
mouth for oral stimulation of the clitoris. Experiment
with different pressures, strokes, and speeds. Ask her
which ones she likes best. A good way to do this is to try two
different touches, then ask her if she likes “a”
or “b” better.

If she’s willing, invite her to masturbate for you
so you can learn exactly how she likes to be touched. Many
women are shy to do this at first but with some gentle encouragement
she may really show her wanton self. It can be a great turn-on,
for both of you. Many men are actually quite frightened
by a woman who is fully sexually awakened. They may doubt
their own ability as a man to keep up, or to be able to perform
adequately. They may fear that if she is too much woman sexually
for him, that she may go elsewhere and find what she wants.
It may help you to overcome this fear if you remember that
you are not responsible for giving your lady sexual satisfaction.
She must do that for herself. But if this fear is very strong,
you may seek counseling help to deal with it.

When you do find a particular stroke or caress that is really
driving her wild, keep doing it, and keep doing it, and keep
doing it. Don’t change anything about it. Don’t
go faster, slower, softer, harder, or switch direction.
Keep doing exactly the same thing until she lets you know
she wants a change either through words or body movement.
This holds true whether you’re pleasuring her clitorally
or vaginally with your fingers or your mouth. Keep going
even if your hands or mouth get really tired!

It’s a good idea to wait until she is very aroused before
entering her vagina either with your fingers or your penis.
Generally if she’s not wet, she’s not ready. It’s
as simple as that. If your lover doesn’t have a lot of
natural vaginal juices even when she is fully aroused,
be sure to use a good silicone or water-based lubricant.
Nothing can be a quicker turn-off than rough, dry skin rubbing
on soft vaginal tissues. Water-based or silicone lubricant
is better because oil can clog the sensitive vaginal tissue.

The most sensitive part of a woman’s vaginal canal
is the first inch to two inches. It’s here that most
of the nerve endings are located, so when you first enter
her concentrate most of your attention there. The elusive
g-spot can usually be found in this general area, on the
top of the vaginal wall, a couple of inches in. Imagine a
glass lying on the floor. If you reach your first two fingers
into the glass at the top, i.e., toward the ceiling rather
than the bottom towards the floor, you should find it. It
is difficult to reach the g-spot through intercourse,
so you will find it much easier with you fingers than with
your penis. There are also some interesting dildos and
vibrators with just the right shape to reach the G-spot.
Move your index finger or your first two fingers in a “come
hither” motion (as if you were asking someone from
across the room to come over to where you are) and gently
stroke her. When you touch her g-spot you may notice a more
bumpy or raised area of skin, but you may not. The best way
to know you’ve found this highly intense love spot
is by her reaction. Where you look is not quite as important
as when you look. Unless she is excited through and through,
perhaps from a clitoral orgasm beforehand, it can be difficult
to find the g-spot.

The Infamous G-spot
Stimulation of the g-spot can produce extraordinarily
intense orgasms. As a woman is approaching a g-spot orgasm
she may feel she has to urinate. This may immediately cause
her to tighten up, stop, and pull back from the edge of bliss.
If she can stay relaxed and keep going through that “have-to-pee”
sensation, it will pass and move on into deep waves of sexual
delight. The woman should urinate before intercourse
begins, so she can be more confident that the feeling that
she has to urinate is a misleading feeling and can be safely
ignored.
For most women it is difficult to reach a climax through
intercourse alone. This is because the sensitive clitoris
isn’t easily stimulated just by thrusting motions;
the g-spot is difficult to reach with even a fully erect
penis; and because often the male partner goes over the
edge into ejaculatory orgasm before the woman has had enough
action to bring her to the heights. If you touch her clitoris
before and during intercourse, and if you’ve pleasured
her vaginally by touching the g-spot with your fingers,
the chances are much better that she will have a deep vaginal
orgasm while your penis is inside her.
Learn the strokes that turn her on. Tell her how fabulous
it is that she’s sensual and sexual. Let her know you
adore her body and love to touch and kiss it for hours. Help
her forget about trying to make orgasm happen and focus
instead on thoroughly enjoying every moment of lovemaking.
If you awaken your multi-orgasmic woman, you are going
to like it!

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